Our severely learning-disabled sixteen year-old daughter, Helen (not her real name), is entirely dependent on others for intimate care. Nearly two years ago, her special school sent round a new intimate care policy, which had been ratified by its governing body:
“A decision has been made to remove cross-gender consent from the personal and intimate care policy, which is in line with legislation and guidance relating to equality and diversity”.
In other words, same-sex intimate care had now become cross-gender intimate care, a change of policy that would allow male members of staff to take Helen to the loo, one-to-one, behind a closed door. As her parents, our reaction was initially disbelief, followed by outrage, and a determination that this policy change should be reversed. Life as parents of a severely learning-disabled, autistic and non-verbal daughter certainly has its worries, and some of these are the focus of this blog. But there is a danger, in writing at length about our worries and fears for Helen’s present and future, that we leave readers thinking our experience is one of unending woe, for which we are seeking sympathy.
Far from it: being the mum and dad of such a wonderful, loyal and affectionate girl is a privilege, an experience of love and fulfilment – there is far more laughter than tears. It is pure joy to be so close to someone who loves affection, laughter, watching her favourite programmes while holding hands, hugs, swimming, beaches, riding on her twin-rider bike…ice cream…. life.
As Helen’s parents, it took us a while to realise the importance of sex-based rights for both her, and for girls and women like her. These rights are under threat. These are the girls and women whose severe disabilities mean that nearly every aspect of their days and lives is planned for them, and done to them. They have no mental capacity (they are fully reliant on others to take decisions in their best interests). They have no voice.
Their disabilities leave them with no sense of stranger-danger. They are unable to tell anyone if they have been flashed, groped, or raped. They are unable to advocate for themselves or draw attention to their vulnerability through social media such as Twitter. They are entirely dependent on others, twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week.
Their threatened rights include:
- The right to have women-only care staff dealing with intimate care, helping use the loo and manage menstruation.
- The right to go to a women’s clothes shop, changing room, or bra-fitting service, and for there to be only women present.
- The right not to be seen naked by or see naked men in swimming pool changing rooms (Helen loves swimming).
Obviously, nobody could imagine that male staff would be thought routinely eligible for roles providing intimate care to severely learning-disabled girls, right? Wrong.
How a journey of awareness began
After we received the school’s new policy, allowing male members of staff to be responsible for Helen’s intimate care, we contacted the school to question the change. We were told that the new policy had been agreed
“after seeking advice from our HR Department, the CIPD (Chartered Institute of Personnel and Development) and the partner schools we work alongside. We have also used our Local Authority’s template for writing the policy.”
We persisted and sought our own informal advice. Helen’s school also sought theirs, this time from a lawyer:
“to ensure that we are doing the absolute best for our pupils without discriminating against any of our staff team.”
This lawyer did indeed tell them that the policy had to be changed back to same-sex intimate care, to comply with the requirements of the Equality Act (2010). However, during these discussions the view was expressed that the law was outdated and against majority opinion. We ended up in a situation where it was agreed that Helen would receive same-sex intimate care, but this was because of parental preference. In other words, Helen’s intrinsic and necessary rights to safeguarding and dignity were now conditional on others’ permission, on us. There is no doubt in our minds that a priority for the school was to be able to appease, to be able tell the staff, the parents have insisted on it.
This was the starting point of our journey: that a special school, with all its expertise and experience of teaching and supporting girls with severe learning disabilities felt justified in tossing away Helen’s rights in order to celebrate staff diversity.
Severely learning-disabled women and sex-based rights
Having come to realise how important it was for Helen to have her privacy and dignity respected and her safety protected, we then began to gain a greater appreciation of the importance of these issues, these sex-based rights. We saw that the erosion of these rights, important for all women, cause great damage to some groups of women in particular, including (in no order of priority):
- Female prisoners
- Females accessing rape counselling services
- Females accessing domestic violence shelters
- Female sports players, elite and grassroots
- Females unable to deal with their own intimate care, including
- Learning-disabled girls and women
- Women with advanced dementia
- Other disabled females
Having started, with horror and disbelief, to look further into how these rights are being chipped away at, we encountered the concept of gender critical (GC) beliefs: the view that the characteristic of sex, whether someone is male or female, is biological and immutable, and cannot be conflated with gender, a personal, internal perception of oneself, based on labels of masculinity or femininity.
Even the briefest of dips into social media reveals vast numbers of gender critical proponents (and, it must be acknowledged, opponents). However, as we explored further, looking for ways to protect Helen now and in the future, it seemed to us that although severely learning-disabled girls and women are amongst the most vulnerable (not least because they have no voice), they receive relatively little attention in gender critical discourse.
Social Services commissioning database
Helen’s school had proposed using gender rather than the protected characteristic of sex to determine which members of staff were eligible to provide intimate care for severely disabled girls. Whilst many people use the two words interchangeably in casual conversation, in formal, legal terms they do not mean the same thing at all. The detailed UK legal meanings are set out here by the Office for National Statistics What is the difference between sex and gender? – Office for National Statistics (ons.gov.uk).
Our simple and surely reasonable wish, that our daughter’s intimate care, including menstrual care, should be provided by staff who were female, like her, was at risk of being dismissed. Rights on the basis of sex cannot be honoured unless the sex of all parties involved is known and recorded.
Our Local Authority Children’s Social Services database holds details of all severely-disabled children in the Borough. In January 2022 we were appalled to find out that this database, used as the basis for commissioning services, records children’s gender, but not their sex; similarly, their HR databaserecords staff members’ gender but not sex.
Our local authority Children’s Social Services Team seem, like Helen’s school, to be driven by notions of inclusivity, leading them to put in place systems that leave them unable to ensure that severely learning-disabled girls participating in its respite services and playschemes (for instance) have their rights to same-sex intimate care respected.
Worryingly, they have told us that the system they use, which has no field to record the child’s sex, is used by some 50% of local authorities across England.
Our dispute has so far gone on from January to May 2022. We are making progress. We are arguing for two changes:
- that it is essential for Helen’s sex to be recorded, to protect her rights
- that the recording of gender must be optional, not mandatory
We are not at all sure whether Helen has a personal perception of herself based on labels of masculinity or femininity. If she does, we have no way of ascertaining what it is! It would be deeply disrespectful to her for us to try to guess what her answer might be, or whether her answer would be ‘prefer not to say’. We must be able to leave the gender field blank.
Our right as parents to speak on Helen’s behalf
As Helen’s parents we are at present entitled to speak on her behalf, and to give or withhold consent on her behalf. This entitlement will change as she gets older.
Currently our voice is, to all intents and purposes, our daughter’s voice. If we object on her behalf to gender being recorded, that must be treated as her objecting. This will change once she reaches 18. Our voice will still count, but in some cases as a voice to be consulted rather than as a voice with authority. In England and Wales, under the Mental Capacity Act:
Family members can continue to make many decisions for their adult child in their best interests. However, this will not automatically be the case in all aspects of their child’s life. Importantly, however, the Act requires professionals to consult with family members when an adult lacks the mental capacity to make a decision for him or herself. Family members can challenge professionals if they feel that they are not being involved. Ultimately, families can ask for things to be referred to the Court of Protection if they feel that their involvement is being limited or decisions are being taken that are not in the family member’s best interests.
So our sense of urgency is driven not only by the thought of us eventually being no longer able to care for her (and see the comments from the mother of another learning-disabled woman in the following section, about her fears as she gets older), but by the thought that our Local Authority will have greater power to make decisions about our daughter once she is eighteen, less than two years from now.
Cassie’s story – a severely learning-disabled woman without a voice
The most severely learning-disabled women cannot speak, write or type; they lack capacity; they have no voice.
A particularly harrowing case is that of Cassie, an autistic non-verbal woman in her mid-fifties, with severe learning disabilities. She had lived in institutions since childhood. Over several years from 2013 her health deteriorated, with no cause being identified. Eventually she was tested for HIV and found to be infected. It was determined that Cassie’s HIV had been sexually transmitted. The severity of Cassie’s learning disabilities was such that she did not have capacity to consent to sexual relations, and so must have been raped. The only men who had access to her were the male care staff in her institution, her home. It was concluded that she had been raped by one or more of her care staff. The perpetrators have not been identified and may still be working there.
For the full horrific details, see adult-b-final-report-nov-2018.pdf (brent.gov.uk)
As with Helen, Cassie’s life had included joy and happiness.
[Cassie’s mum] Cassie was happy and outgoing… she enjoys being part of things. She liked the music room. She’d jump up and down. She was happy.
[Cassie’s support workers] Cassie is… outgoing and likes being outdoors. She is not violent but pleasant. She jumps and claps when happy. She’s a nice, noisy, happy lovely lady, friendly and cheeky.
Both Cassie’s mum and the review panel into her case comment on her lack of voice:
[Cassie’s mum]: What chance have you got to catch the rapist? This is a service where people can’t speak.
[Cassie’s mum]: When asked if they [institution staff] had noticed changes in Cassie’s behaviour they said ‘No!’ The people responsible for a service where people can’t speak.
(For non-verbal learning disabled people, who cannot themselves report distressing experiences, there is an onus on carers to be aware of behavioural changes and consider what might be the cause. It is known that Cassie was raped – is it really believable that there were at that point no changes in her behaviour?)
[Review panel document] Until the months before Cassie’s HIV diagnosis, her tearful distress was seen as behavioural rather than as an undetected health problem.
Please reflect on that last comment. Imagine: having been raped, but unable to tell anyone, unable to seek counselling, comfort, medical assistance, even sympathy; having been infected with HIV, and as the symptoms of the disease develop, evidencing tearful distress – and your distress being ‘seen’ (we don’t think it is unreasonable to interpret this as ‘dismissed’) as a behavioural issue. As Cassie’s mum says, this response was from a service for people who can’t speak: distress was Cassie’s only means of crying for help, and it was ignored.
In conclusion – your severely learning-disabled sisters need you
Are there any groups of women for whom sex–based rights are more vitally important than severely learning-disabled women such as Cassie and Helen (and women with advanced dementia)? Are there any groups of women less able to advocate for themselves? Are there any groups of women more in need of the voices of others, not just family members, but all who are concerned with sex–based rights, to shout from the rooftops on their behalf?
It is fantastic that women sports players have Sharron Davies, Daley Thompson and other big sporting names to speak out about the importance of keeping women’s sport single-sex. We have huge respect for these celebrities for putting their heads well above the parapet, and for dealing with the consequent vitriolic abuse. But where are the celebrity voices advocating for women such as Cassie who are voiceless, women facing not unfair exclusion from a sports team or podium, but facing rape, HIV infection and their tearful distress being seen as a behavioural issue?
There are of course disabled women speaking out on this issue (and we would like to pay tribute to @PankhurstEM, who has done so much to raise our awareness of such cases), and there are disabled female celebrities. But, almost by definition, there are no big-name women with severe learning disabilities to represent the interests of our daughter and girls and women like her.
For the moment, and we hope for years to come, our daughter has us to speak on her behalf. But to quote again from Cassie’s mother:
As I get older and my body deteriorates, I think of Cassie, and this makes me tearful…I worry about what will happen to her when I am not here anymore.
What will happen to Helen when we are no longer able to care for her, when she is living in an institution of some kind? Who will be in charge overnight? Who will be dealing with her intimate care? Will we have to face the fears for Helen that beset Cassie’s mum?
“I trusted them…When I discovered that Male1 was the weekend supervisor, I became even more distressed – I don’t know what goes on there at nights….It’s really painful for a mother to think there’s a man there at night. It’s on my mind, heavily, constantly. I want her to move somewhere with women staff. When Cassie was leaving, Male1 was sent in a car to meet us. I was so upset I couldn’t say anything. It was so distressing. One time at the home, Cassie saw Male1 and moved as far from him as she could. She didn’t want him near her! I do not know who raped her. There’s one…who likes to offer his services, but not in a good way. I don’t know who raped my girl. They might still be there, allowed to work. I don’t want men to work with Cassie at night.“
We don’t want men to work with Helen at night.
It is so important for Helen, for Cassie, and for all severely learning-disabled women that their sex-based rights are preserved and enhanced, that there is societal recognition that many elements of their care should be delivered only by staff whose sex is female: that when we, the parents, are no longer able to look after them, their rights will be respected.
If you are reading this blog, you almost certainly have a voice, a social media presence. If you have things to say about sex–based rights, please remember Cassie, please remember our daughter, Helen. Please advocate for their learning-disabled needs and rights:
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Why is it even necessary for this to be debated? It seems perfectly reasonable that sex not gender should be the deciding factor here. It is likely that the trans activists are the ones who object rather than transgender people themselves. It is probable that the majority of well meaning transgender people would respect that a vulnerable female be intimately cared for by another natal birth female. I wish the activists would get off their soap boxes and stop speaking for people whose views they don’t even represent.
These stories are upsetting, but we must hear them.
The most vulnerable people in our communities are being hurt.
It used to be the case the same sex care was provided, and it should be provided again.
It is not to much to ask sex- care based when you think about women who have been traumatized and also severely disabled women who don’t have a voice. What kind of society is this that endangers the most vulnerable people in society and takes away their rights for align themselves with an absurd ideology.?
#SexNotGender and our disable sisters needs us
Girls and women with less severe (ie moderate) learning difficulties are also extremely vulnerable to grooming and abuse. I had assumed that protection had increased since the 80s when I supported a 15yr old girl who disclosed to me (with incriminating detail) that her Head Teacher was her ‘boy friend’.
(Now in my 80s I’m aware of my own vulnerability)
This agenda is nothing short of evil. Disguised as good and at times, very hard to argue against because it is always presented as progress, equality, tolerance, inclusion…..I weep many a time over the hardship, desperation and worry of so many that have to put up with the sycophantic decision-making of so many, who are complicit in crimes against humanity…CHOOSING to help implement that which is destructive to the care of human beings.
What begins with a desire not to discriminate and to be inclusive can, without specific intention, result in a position where one set of perceived rights is inappropriately prioritised over other actual more basic rights. As here, painstakingly and clearly argued. Entirely believably, you describe also how an authority which finds itself in this position, then defends and rationalises it rather than reassesses. Hopefully they can be brought to the point of rethinking. It is very brave to enter the arena of modern gender politics: it is hard to see how a well-meaning person could disagree with what you have written.
Have a look at Elaine Miller’s interviews on YouTube, she advocates for dementia/disabled patients as she is a physiotherapist in Scotland and very unhappy with what is going on with the erasure of ‘sex’ category in the Scottish healthcare system . She is a fascinating speaker. She’s also Gusset Grippers on Twitter.
I’m glad that this is finally being addressed but as you say it’s pretty much left to those of us who are disabled or care for those of us who are. It hit me like a tonne of bricks being not only offered but promised female care after an op. Only to feel the presence of a man whilst coming round from the anaesthetic. I came round swinging, I wasn’t even conscious that I was or why I was, the feeling was that primal. And like I say it hit me then, I do have a voice and they not only lied to me they re-traumatised me so what the hell are they doing to women and girls who can’t advocate for themselves and even worse have nobody to advocate for them. And yes what about me as I get older and my care needs increase, what happens when I lose my mobility completely and can no longer deal with my incontinence myself. I don’t have family to advocate for me so I can’t help but fear for the future, my future and the future for all women and girls who need help and support with our intimate care.
These authorities are paid to provide a service, to the public, to patients, so THOSE are the people they should care about. A so-called caring profession that cares only about the STAFF has its priorities back to front. Provide single-sex care, or you are not fit for the job.
Imagine being in an environment where everyone around you is severely disabled and all you can do is moan about how unfair life is for ‘you’. Imagine knowing that there have been many cases where vulnerable female patients get abused by staff and thinking ‘I’m willing to take that risk just so I can feel validated’.
– Men do not belong in female spaces. Men who insert themselves into female spaces, in clear opposition to the wishes of the girls and the women in that space, are predators.
– Men who pretend that they are women, either as a hobby or a lifestyle, have every right to require that other men do not harm them in public, in private, or in the pursuit of a career, family or education. Whether they amputate a penis or just wear skirts, men who embrace female stereotypes should be safe from aggression in male spaces. Feminists support their desire to be safe in spaces appropriate for their sex.
– Language control is fundamental to social engineering. Do not participate. Women are not a “cis” subset of women and do not need a label. Do not let anyone call you cis. We’re not “birthing persons,” we are women.
– No one is trans. It’s not possible to transition sex. A child is not “born in the wrong body” and the medical professionals are failing them by fostering this delusion. We do not help anorexic people go on diets.
100%. I am saving your excellent comments for reference. Thank you
I am a registered health professional that specialises in the care for people with learning disabilities and have come across this issue in every service I have worked in or managed. I am 100% behind the Mental Capacity Act and the rights of those with capacity must always be respected, even if those choices are unwise. You wouldn’t question anyone for eating too much sugar or smoking cigarettes even though there are health conditions related to both, so why are we so quick to “protect” our loved ones with a learning disability?
Having read this post, I would like to share some of my experiences.
If a resident/patient/service user/client/customer with capacity does NOT want male carers, then this is what I would advocate and make possible if I could with the resources I had available. For people that do not have capacity then the thoughts and wishes of the parents or guardians will be respected until that person becomes an adult. Once that person is an adult, they can have an advocate appointed or best interest decisions made. Family members can also apply for Lasting Power of Attorney if they wish to ensure their voice is heard.
In regards to who cares for whom, then I would always endeavour to ensure same sex care when possible, however, if the care is publicly funded then this may not always be possible. Alternatives are to apply for a personal budget and employ people to care for your loved one or care for your loved one yourself. Whatever my own beliefs of sex, gender and transgender are, I always treat people with dignity and respect regardless of age, disability, sex or belief. Everyone in care must either have a registration or at the very least have a criminal record check.
As a man I find it offensive to be told that I cannot care for female residents just because I am a man. My registration, my character and my abilities as a Nurse in that one sentence are reduced to nothing as I must be an abuser? Same sex spaces within social care are not always possible and not all abusers are strangers. I have seen many family members abuse their loved ones financially, emotionally and unfortunately, sexually and have ensured that once discovered have been reported to the appropriate authorities.
The English have a reluctance to discuss difficult subjects. Things like death and sex are a no go until a crisis comes calling. One thing I always ask parents or guardians is this: Is this what your daughter/son/loved one wants or is it what you want?
The answer is often surprising.
I do not know you and therefore do not know if you are a sex offender. The polite thing would be to assume not. I do, however, know that I have been sexually abused by men in my lifetime, and even thinking about allowing males to perform intimate cares on me causes me to become extremely anxious. I have been sexually traumatized, and it is difficult to even allow female health care professionals to perform intimate exams. In this situation, it is not on me to validate you as a good man. It is on you to be a good man and respect my wishes.
Good men stay out, so bad men stand out. Are you a good man Nathaniel? I doubt the family of a woman raped and infected with hiv are too concerned about your feeling offended. These stories are horrific. I keep mentioning hospitals and care homes and how vulnerable we are in them, especially if we are unconscious, or otherwise impaired, but very few seem to realise. It’s terrifying. I will write to my mp again, link this account and try to help bring attention to the plight of disabled people who are ignored year after year, when our potential new PM is campaigning for votes. Sadly I’m a no one too, hopefully jk Rowling picking it up will help.. I do hope there can be some resolution and vulnerable women and girls are protected.
Not all men who work in care & are abusive, however, I still don’t want males providing my personal care or providing my 24 hour care. I have a voice, it isn’t always heard but at least I have it.
Thank you for your courage to share and bring attention to the issue of ensuring women and girls have the right to female-only care and spaces. Until I heard your family’s story, it had never crossed my mind that this was something I should be concerned for. My heart breaks for Cassie and I feel angry she wasn’t protected.
I live in the United States and have a special needs daughter. She has Down syndrome. She is only 5, but it is horrifying for me to think about her schools not protecting her in the future. In my country we are having the same battle – to base policies and care in sex, not gender identity.
It was your story that prompted me to testify before my state’s board of education, and urge them to enact policies to base protections one sex, not gender. I spoke specifically about special needs females and their right to privacy and female-only assistance.
God bless you in your fight for what is good and right.
Nathaniel: sorry, but your hurt ‘feelings’ come across as sounding like a trans activist. We are caring for the majority, ie., vulnerable, disabled women that need help in care settings, and not for the minority of paid men working within these environments, and their hurt ‘feelings’. Making a personal decision to “eat too much sugar or smoke too many cigarettes,” hardly puts vulnerable women in the position of being sexually molested. Plus what vulnerable woman in a care setting, that needs intimate personal care, gets to eat too much sugar or smoke too many cigarettes? What a crazy example! With genuine respect to you, and with you being a man, so you can’t personally understand nor appreciate how biological women feel and think – please take yourself and your personal male slights out of this. Listen to us women that have commented here. Be a by-stander looking in, that perhaps has a disabled, vulnerable teenage ‘womanly’ daughter. You know hot-blooded men and their biological drives, yes, surely you do? Do you truly believe it is right for men, male nurses, male carers, one-to-one, to undress and intimately touch and view vulnerable young women’s bodies, breasts and genitals? These men – their job title is allowing them to rail-road over and violate women’s personal space. When having an intimate personal examination, as a rule women are allowed to elect for a second nursing staff member to be present. Generally if a male doctor, there has to be a female nurse present. Why is that? For the woman to feel more at ease, that’s why. In general, women are choosy what men see them naked, let alone who they allow to touch them intimately, or have sex with. Our bodies and genitals are our personal, private, sacred space. We don’t let just anyone to have access. Women’s bodies and especially that of disabled, vulnerable young women, are not insignificant pieces of meat, just because the women don’t have mental capacity. How disrespectful to have that blanket approach: “She doesn’t know any better, so she has no reason to worry or care who sees or touches her intimately.” Not all men, or male carers, male nurses are sexual predators, no, but there have been way too many examples over the years where male sexual predators merrily chance taking and skipping through the loop-hole, knowing they have free access to vulnerable women: to have a good look, maybe a grope, or worse. Pre-meditated sly, long-game, slow-burn choice of profession, to gain access. Then their temptation and free reign getting the better of them. What mind-set do they possess, that a male carer or male nurse allows their sexual drive to push them to sexually assault and rape vulnerable young women? Believing they would be safe from discovery and would repeatedly get away with it. Deliberately subsequently tormenting their victims, as the cases above, causing them further distress, yet knowing their out of character behaviour would be ignored. That’s how serial rapists behave until they get caught. So they are hiding under the radar of working in a medical environment – marvellous! Don’t you want to protect these men from enacting upon their mental sickness? Moreso, don’t you want to protect not only these disturbed men from acting upon their sexual desire and lack of will-power, but more importantly protect these vulnerable women who can’t say no – there has to be sexual consent remember – from being sexually abused, becoming pregnant, or being infected with sexually transmitted diseases, and with the like of HIV, their health and quality of life be even further depleted?? “As a man I find it offensive to be told that I cannot care for female residents just because I am a man. My registration, my character and my abilities as a Nurse in that one sentence are reduced to nothing as I must be an abuser?” If your pride and arrogance push you to believe your medical credentials and qualifications deem you worthy of pushing for all men to continue to be able to have intimate access to vulnerable women within these environments, you are part of the problem and issue. You blatantly refuse to accept to do what is right for vulnerable young girls and women. It is the age-old male pride and men being in charge, men making all the rules about what is best for women – out-weighing what women actually want, women feel comfortable with and what women need, when it comes to access the personal space and personal privacy of our female BODIES. Not yours – OURS. First and foremost: protect women. Caring, understanding men would firstly put the protection of all women being cared for within medical environments, be the women disabled, vulnerable or not. Would men be happy having rules and regulations in regard to their bodies and how you want to be dealt with, what is deemed best for you, written and agreed by women? Of course not. Good men understand. Good men protect women and children. Good men know those men who have bad intentions towards women. All women have to unfortunately be wary of men, strangers, that are unfamiliar to us. It is part of the course of life. Yet we have our faculties fully about us so I feel so totally helpless on behalf of the vulnerable women who cannot speak up. If you are a good man, Nathanielle – show it, and don’t just give lip-service. ‘Hear’ us women here and listen to us. Please take action and stand-up to keep all men away from having access to vulnerable and disabled women within your care setting. Please also stand-up to allow biologically born women to keep our single-sex spaces free from all men gaining access, regardless of what ‘face’ they put on. Good men stay away, to keep bad men out. Thank you in advance, Nathaniel.
A quick google search on “registered medical professionals” who have sexually abused thousands of girls reveals the names of Larry Nasser, George Tyndall, David Broadbent, Robert Hadden, James Heaps, Guy Rofe, no doubt hundreds more. A few moments with these blood-chilling stories should convince anyone that if public funding does not currently assure same-sex care, it is a top priority for it to be funded and fixed until it does. Seems it would be safest for same-sex care to be provided at least to the most vulnerable female populations–girls under 21, the learning disabled, and the elderly–by default, and anyone who wanted to opt out could do so. Sex, not gender, should clearly be the operative category here.
You can be sure that if males were the ones being abused by female “registered medical professionals” in such astounding numbers, this sickening danger would have long ago been addressed. Men would not stand for it for a moment! The only reason this is still happening to females now is because of the massive misogyny and sexism of the male-dominated culture.
The hurt ego of a man like Nathaniel is irrelevant and does not deserve a direct reply. Nor should his self-centered intrusion into this thread be allowed to shut down the conversation among women. It’s time for females to practice coming together and supporting each other after such online intrusions, instead of colluding in being silenced. It should not be so easy for one male, however entitled, to shut this thread down. Hereby inviting more women to post here and continue it.