Gender indoctrination in schools: a teenage girl’s testimony

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“Cynthia” is a pseudonym to protect the identity of the 14-year-old girl who wrote to us with this account of the gender ideology indoctrination in her state school in the UK. This is a long post but we have not edited her words as we think all of what she has to say is important, although some potentially identifying details have been changed. Our thanks to “Cynthia” for this courageous testimony and to her mother for her support in allowing us to publish it.

We hope this disturbing account is a wake-up call to everyone involved in the education of this generation of children and young people.

Gender Indoctrination in Schools

by Cynthia, aged 14

You’d expect schools to be a place of education, but nowadays it’s more like indoctrination. Most politicians, parents, and teachers are utterly oblivious about what’s happening right under their noses – or worse, they know, but are too cowardly to do anything.    

So I’ll be the one to present my testimony of how schools are encouraging delusion, facilitating regressive political activism, and promoting extreme and dogmatic ideologies. Believe it or not, this seems to be happening in every British secondary school, and I’ve seen it happen first-hand. I’m a fourteen-year-old girl and this is my testimony on the infiltration of gender ideology in schools, including mine.    

They didn’t hesitate to start preaching the political activism, and it started right away in year seven – as part of our PSHE lessons, we had to write a “Pledge” to LGBTQIA+ students and watch a video in class about what and what not to say to LGBTQIA+ people. After that, we had another lesson in which the word “butch” was labelled as “derogatory” and “a transphobic slur” – even though it’s a word used to describe a masculine lesbian. It’s not a slur and has nothing to do with being “transphobic”. This year – I’m in year 10 – we had another assembly which also denounced the word butch as a slur. This time, I had the confidence to talk to a teacher about it – who quickly dismissed my concerns and simply said they were just following the County Council’s guidance.

There was a display in the hallway featuring several “pride flags” and made-up labels, including “gender fluid”, “transgender”, “non-binary”, “pansexual”, “polysexual”, “demiboy”, “demigirl”, “gender queer”, and others. In year seven, I attended a debating competition hosted at our school and we were asked to state our name and preferred pronouns before we could say anything, and we had a display in the library featuring the trans propaganda book Beyond Magenta, which is extremely inappropriate and contains sexually explicit content. This book was in the library where 11-year-olds could read it, no questions asked, no age restriction. Thankfully, my mum and I wrote into school and had the explicit book display and pride flags removed.    

Then I heard from a friend that she had been attending a lunchtime club called Equalities. It’s a group organised by the Librarian, and there are around fifteen participants in total, all girls (although some identify as “transgender”). Interested, I decided to attend, but it wasn’t what I had expected. It wasn’t advocating for equality and rights, it was blatant political activism – and in my first meeting, it was exclusively promoting gender ideology. They were attempting to get a survey sent out to all students, including eleven and twelve-year-olds, which asked them about pronouns, fabricated “genders”, whether they were LGBTQIA+ or not, and other concerning questions that raised serious safeguarding issues, and was clearly politically biased in favour of gender ideology. There was talk of organising a protest – against what, I don’t know – as well as “pronoun badges” and “pride flag badges” and “gender identity badges”.    

Soon after, I got added to the Equalities group chat, and somehow, it’s even worse than I thought. There were 900+ messages about watching pornography and smoking weed, links to “fanfic” and “Harry Potter porn”, sexually explicit photos of mannequins, and more. This is a group chat for a club officially organised and recognised at school, and there have been TEACHERS recommending it to Year 8 kids – twelve and thirteen-year-olds. A younger friend in Year Eight told me that her tutor had urged the children in her group to attend Equalities meetings and join the club. The group chat is an unsupervised free-for-all, and there’s zero safeguarding measures in place, and rarely any teachers are present at the lunchtime meetings either.    

There was also another club promoting gender ideology – the “LGBTQ+ Club”. The first (and only) time I attended I only stayed for around thirty seconds before hastily exiting. When I entered, all the children attending (I’d say there was around fifteen to twenty – most younger kids, the majority were girls) were sitting around the tables, and there were three teachers at the front of the room. They were going around stating their pronouns (e.g., “they / them”, as some kids said) and sexuality (e.g., “aro ace” and “pansexual”), encouraged by the teachers. As I said, I only stayed for half a minute before making an excuse about homework and leaving. However, I think it’s clear that a club that encourages an extreme and dogmatic political ideology and has young children state who they like to have sex with raises some serious safeguarding concerns; it’s just blatant indoctrination.    

Obviously, these are all major issues, but I’m really conflicted. I’m the newest member of the Equalities group chat, and if I speak out publicly against it, they’ll probably know it was me, especially since I expressed a disliking to the term “birthing partner”, which they may have perceived as “transphobic”. It’s a really tricky situation. If I don’t do anything, the safeguarding issues will continue, but if I say something, I’ll be ostracised as a traitor and a “transphobe” and a “TERF” if they realise who it was. And I’m worried that if I report it to school, they’ll only shut down the chat, and keep the ideological activist group and promote that awful survey.    

The reason I’m afraid to speak out is because there is extreme hostility towards anyone who doesn’t vehemently support gender ideology; it feels extremely cultish. I’ve noticed the frenzy of hatred towards “transphobes” in the form of comments from my friends, remarks about people they dislike, including “I hate anyone who supports JK Rowling”, “I want to strangle transphobes with a rope”, “I wish JK Rowling and all transphobes would drop dead”, and the like.

There was even a petition to get our head of year fired because he was being apparently “transphobic”. From what I understand, it was because he was not letting male students get undressed with the girls in the girls’ changing rooms for PE. Another student came up to me after class and asked me to report a teacher in the next Year Council meeting for being “transphobic” as well. My friends seem just absolutely certain that there is ONE point of view that everyone should have and that anyone who questions it must be a raging transphobe.    

My friends don’t know I disagree with gender ideology and I’m too scared to say anything that goes against the accepted norm in case I’ll be targeted; I’ve heard what’s happened to girls in other schools when they’ve spoken out – take “Kate”, for example, she was spat on and harassed and ended up self-harming after bullying from her classmates after she said “I respectfully disagree” to a person who was talking about the topic of “trans rights”. I feel like it is EXACTLY the same environment at my school, and it’s basically like there’s been this mass-radicalisation of today’s youth in favour of a hateful ideology which favours sexist, regressive stereotypes over biological truth.

I have “trans” and “non-binary” friends, and I love them to pieces, but if they find out I disagree with gender ideology I have zero doubt they’ll abandon me (and probably turn on me) in the blink of an eye. There’s this culture of absolute intolerance towards any notion of an opinion that differs from the politically-correct norm, and it’s clearly present at my school. So I just meekly agree and nod along while my friends rant on about how men can have cervixes; why “birthing partner” is an acceptable replacement for the word mother; why there’s actually no reason for single-sex sport; why “neopronouns are the future!”; why JK Rowling is a “transphobic TERF” who deserves to die, etc., because I’m terrified of speaking out.

It’s their vitriolic attitudes of complete intolerance and hate that makes it so hard to find the courage to say “I disagree”. I usually steer away from the “it’s a cult!” language but that’s what it seriously feels like; like it’s a cult that I’m the only one who is not part of.    

When I entered secondary school, I met a girl, who I’ll call “Kelly”. Eleven-year-old Kelly was already identifying as “transgender” and “pansexual”, and soon refused to use the correct changing room and insisted that other girls refer to her by “he/him” pronouns. I watched as the school allowed her to change her name from Kelly to a boy’s name on the school register and gave her exemption from having to use the girls’ changing rooms.    

You can see the self-harming scars on Kelly’s arms, face, hands, and neck. She has to frequently take days off school due to mental health issues. She has talked multiple times about ending her life and she recounted to me how she attempted suicide before. I believe she keeps razor blades in her bag. Her phone gallery is filled with images of her arms bloodied and sliced into – I have seen it with my own eyes, and the scars are very prominent. I do not believe that a mentally unstable self-harming child should have her delusions that she is actually a boy affirmed; I think it would be better to treat mental illness rather than to encourage it. And the “social transition” that school is helping her and other children with places her on a path to life-altering drugs and irreversible surgeries that will disfigure her body permanently. Kelly has stated she has dysphoria about her breasts.    

Since Kelly “came out as transgender” in Year Seven, almost every other girl from her friend group has declared a make-believe identity, opting for new names and new pronouns and new “gender identities”, such as “gender-fluid” or “non-binary”, and the like. Other kids in different year groups soon started adopting fabricated “identities” and the social contagion flourished. There has been a significant influx of girls in my classes demanding that other children refer to them with biologically incorrect pronouns and “gender identities” such as “gender-fluid” and the like.    

I’ll be frank, it’s popular to be “trans”. I know there’s a lot of talk about ROGD – Rapid-Onset Gender Dysphoria – but from my experience with trans-identifying friends, it feels more like a label one can apply to gain popularity points rather than a misdiagnosis or self-diagnosis of a troubled teen. In fact, while talking to Kelly about the trans topic, I inquired what she thought a sign that a person was “trans” could be, and she said that gender dysphoria had nothing to do with it, and that a person could easily be “trans” without experiencing any dysphoria or distress, which actually greatly surprised me at the time.

It makes you amazingly popular to be part of the “oppressed” few, the struggling trans kids trying to survive in a hateful, transphobia-ridden world, and this attitude is even more prominent online, where most trans-identifying kids first heard about gender ideology. That’s why we have “pansexual non-binary agender demiromantic” ten-year-olds. It’s the cool and trendy thing to be doing right now, but there are serious consequences, and “social transition” places trans-identifying children on a path to surgical mutilation, sterilisation, and irreversible damage.

The school, by “transitioning” these children, is doing a lot of harm and it is not in the best interests of the trans-identifying child. Furthermore, there’s the culture of 100% affirmation, where any scepticism is blasted down as “transphobia”, and I have heard my friends repeating the slogan “If you’re thinking you might be trans, you probably are.”    

As well as this, I’m a girl who has short hair and wears trousers, and I’ve been asked so many times about whether I’m “transitioning” and what pronouns I’d prefer to be referred to with, whereas none of my gender-conforming friends get this treatment. I feel like this is a really important point to make – how my generation supports the rigid, regressive stereotypes of what a boy or a girl should be: it’s like we’ve suddenly gone back fifty years and once again, being a woman is nothing more than a pretty dress, sparkly high heels, a pronounced liking for sewing and a preference for Barbie. A pink brain.

They’re reinforcing the binary that they try so hard to destroy, fitting each person in a little pink or blue box depending on their personality and preferences, regardless of biology. In the school residential in year nine, the girls in the tent I was in went round in turns stating their preferred pronouns and I was forced to participate due to fear of being exposed as gender-critical. In a younger friend’s PE class, the girls she was in a team with also asked each other their preferred pronouns. This was in the girls’ PE class!

The kids at school equate femininity as actually BEING female, and masculinity as literally BEING male. According to them, there’s no such thing as a girl who has short hair and wears trousers and likes video games – she’s got to be a boy. They value regressive, sexist stereotypes over the biological reality of sex.    

Other stuff has been happening at school as well, such as the occasion where girls were complaining that their parents weren’t letting them buy breast binders in the changing rooms, as well as claiming there were no negative side effects (which there ARE: rib fractures, shoulder dislocation, itching, swelling, numbness, infections, permanent disfigurement of the breasts), and stating they’d buy one and leave their parents. The kids who “identify” as something other than their sex are allowed to refuse to enter the correct sex’s changing room, and instead change in mixed-sex toilet cubicles – we have both single-sex and mixed-sex toilets at school.

As I said, every single child I know believes in gender ideology, and you often hear students asking each other questions like – “what’s the word for being attracted to non-binary people?” (Which, by the way, is “Skoliosexual”), and other such questions. The school has a poster put up near the Head of Year offices offering an online “confidential safe space” for LGBT+ students, and when I visited their website, one of the first things I read was “trans women are women and trans men are men. This is a common-sense statement”. As well as this, the kids at school and all of my friends refuse to refer to mothers as mothers, and instead use terms like “birthing partner” for mother and “non-birthing partner” for father.

Instead of saying male or female to describe people who are either male or female, they say “afab” or “amab”, ridiculous terms which stand for “assigned female at birth” and “assigned male at birth”. They rant about hating “transphobes” and have a cult-like loyalty to gender ideology, and it’s really distressing to know that they hate people like me, those that don’t subscribe to a sexist and homophobic ideology that endangers women and girls.    

The teachers are useless at dealing with this, and some even encourage it; they changed one of my friend’s names on the official register, she was eleven at the time and identifying as “transgender” and “pansexual”. The teachers refer to her with male pronouns and I believe her “gender” (sex!) is officially registered as male, although I am not certain. Also, some of the teachers are really woke. The head of debate club wears pride flag badges and I’m scared to speak my actual opinion when debating in case it’s not politically correct enough, and there are the three teachers who run the LGBTQ+ Club who were asking for kid’s pronouns. The head librarian wears the pride badges as well, and created the Equalities club, and also created the display which featured the explicit book (although the display was taken down).    

An important thing to note is that my school is, by far, not the worst – my testimony is a relatively mild example of how gender ideology can infiltrate a school. I’ve heard accounts from parents and teachers in the UK where each child has had to state their preferred pronouns before they speak in class; PowerPoints teaching six-year-olds words such as “gender-fluid” and “pansexual”; the horrific treatment of teachers and students who speak out. It’s a terrifying environment.    

We must draw attention to the indoctrination of children into gender ideology in schools and the intolerant and hostile atmosphere that surrounds speaking out against it. I’ve seen first-hand the vehement devotion my friends and classmates present towards this ideology – as I’ve said before, it legitimately feels like a cult: the fierce loyalty they show towards an ideology that essentially reduces people to meaningless stereotypes.

What’s even worse is how the schools encourage this attitude, pushing gender ideology on children with obvious political bias, and yet zero consequences. There is a shocking lack of safeguarding, as seen with the Equalities group chat, where a club officially recognised and organised by the school has a group chat where the girls involved exchange links to pornography and talk about their favourite kinds of porn and getting high.

We have repeatedly written into school now and it feels like our concerns are still not being taken seriously. It is time for the Government to stop the affirmation and encouragement of delusion, and to calm the vehemently dogmatic atmosphere that surrounds speaking out. This can be done by issuing clear guidance that ensures political neutrality in schools, and instructs headteachers not to present highly controversial ideology as fact.   

This Post Has 34 Comments

  1. Lisa

    Thank you for speaking put on this important topic and for being brave enough to do so. I must admit I am shocked at the level of doctrination that is still occurring on what you describe as not one of the worst schools. I had thought this craze was dying down but sadly it seems I was also deluded.

    1. MG

      The rainbow flag is becoming a symbol of hate, isnt it?

  2. Elaine Fraser

    Brave and brilliant . I know it’s not an option for most but home schooling wd be my first thought

  3. Tony Turner

    If correct, and I have no reason to doubt this young lady, a very worrying situation exists in her school, which should not be allowed to continue unchecked. I would be very concerned if any child of mine were a pupil at such a school.

    1. George Q Tyrebyter

      The problem is not with “this school”. The problem is that MOST SCHOOLS follow this pattern.

  4. Una-Jane Winfield

    I don’t “like” this. I HATE this. It reads like the beginning of “Gilead” in the UK. Some novelists see the truth before everyone else. The theocracy in Gilead arose as a result of “a fertility crisis”. I haven’t read Margaret Atwood’s book, but the fear in the fictional world and the fear in Cynthia’s feel the same.

  5. Coco

    I’m so used to hearing about this kind of thing happening in America. To read a testimony from a girl over here in the UK, who could go to a school down the road from me is harrowing to say the least. I really didn’t think it was this bad over here. My autistic younger cousins will be entering secondary school next year, and I’m trying to conceive myself. Is this what my young loved ones will be exposed to when they’re supposed to be prepping for their GCSEs? I’ve never been more convinced to home school, but that comes with its own issues and I don’t know enough about it, but what else can we do? Look at what happened to poor “Kate”. Even if your child doesn’t become indoctrinated, they’ll still have to deal with the TRAs in the making. I’d lose it if my child were bullied for anything, but for being gender critical? I don’t know what I’d do.

  6. Pauline Bantel

    A very detailed and shocking account. Most children won’t tell their parents this is happening.

    However may I say that the whole time whilst reading, I just kept thinking this has not been written solely by a 14-year-old. Clearly helped by a parent, which is absolutely fine, but that should be stated transparently so all the important facts aren’t thrown into question.

    Apart from that what on earth can be done. This is worse than most of us thought. I’ve been following Transgender Trend for a few years and I’m so glad you are alert to this. I’m a grandmother to six, the eldest being 14, and I’ve kept my ear close to the ground on this subject. I was hoping, with many corporations, disowning Stonewall and people getting wise to mermaids, that the gender narrative was being seen for what it is. Clearly it has gone from bad to worse. What can we do to protect our children from this?

  7. Heloise

    This sounds/reads as though heavily guided and edited by a worried and incensed parent, not a 14 year-old! So, unfortunately, it doesn’t ring quite true. I too deeply resent the ideological indoctrination that’s going on in schools [after months of banging-my-head-against-a-brick-wall with them, my Freedom of Information Request to see the PSHE resources, lesson plans and sources has recently been called ‘vexatious’ by my 14 year-old son’s school], but nonetheless try to limit the information I give my son about gender ideology. Just enough to arm him against it [and even that I resent having to do], but not so much that I become defacto complicit in the breakdown of his natural innocence. It’s a fine line. Seems to me that the 14 year old girl who wrote this piece knows too much about the horror of it all and is being deliberately encouraged to investigate/expose herself to it.
    The other day at school a friend of my son’s pointed out the word ‘Fiction’ in a sign beneath a row of obnoxious books in the school library: LGBTQ+ Fiction. And they both laughed knowingly at the joke. Both know just enough to know it is FICTION. What they don’t – and shouldn’t – know is how incredibly, terrifyingly harmful it is. They’re only 14, they don’t need to be burdened with that. They need to know just enough to laugh at it…and then get on with something far more interesting.
    But I agree, it’s well and truly time for the Government to be hardline about this issue and lay down the law with crystal clear clarity.

    1. Transgender Trend

      She wrote it entirely by herself and came to her own views. Her parents had not introduced the topic to her, she told them her views and of course they then had conversations about it. She is a very intelligent and articulate teenager.

      1. Peter George Mackie

        I was thinking the same. Some 14-year-olds are quite articulate. What she described is very alarming.

      2. Zoe

        So a straight kid can’t know her own mind but a young child of 3 can know they want to change their sex. Seriously. Everyone has free speech.

    2. Retired teacher

      I have read a lot of essays by teenagers in the past, as well as listening to their views in class discussion. I think it is possible to distinguish between those who are reproducing the views of their parents, or other adults they admire, and those who are giving their conclusions after having carefully thought about a topic for themselves. Reading this, I have no doubt that these are views that Cynthia has arrived at by herself as a result of thinking deeply about her school experiences. I agree that the writing is likely to be too good to be just a first draft, but who would not carefully edit their own work before submitting it for publication? If a parent had been involved at all, it would only be in editing for style, not content.
      Do not underestimate the ability of an intelligent and articulate 14-year old girl to become thoroughly well-informed about her subject. Consider, for instance, Greta Thunberg.

  8. Oregon Mom

    Thank you for your courage! You show a lot of maturity for your age. It is sad and frightening that so many young people fall victim to this gender ideology. It is infuriating that schools are behind this gender activism. It screams pedophilia when a adult asks an 11 year old to state their sexual preference. Who are these people asking these questions? It’s just as bad in the USA and probably worse. I rejoiced when I heard that the Tavistock clinic had shut down. No such luck here. Doctors are making so much money from this atrocity.
    It is sad that your friends are so blinded by this. If you feel they would easily turn against you if your true feelings were spoken, I suggest you slowly move away from them and try to make new friends. I wonder what their mothers feel about being called “birthing partners”? All I know is that your mother must be proud of you. You are bright and grounded in reality. Hope this nightmare goes away soon.

  9. Diane Sparkes

    This young person has strength beyond her years, her ability to present a case on such a subject is above admirable. With journalistic integrity that is very clear in this submission, Politicians should listen to what she is saying and really LISTEN!
    So why do I say this (1) because I am an ex-teacher 82 YO and (2) as a legal female identifying openly as Transsexual – with many decades of life experience and over twenty-five years of research, which means in this case, I know what I am talking about.
    The simple reality is there is no place for such discussions to be presented to our young people – at least, not until the age of maturity.
    Does no one realize that when the Term Transgender was first coined (attributed to Virginia Prince) in the seventies a man identifying as a Transvestite distinguished his confused male/femmiphile self – from Transsexuals because transsexuals have forever needed to change their anatomy and their assigned sex because they report it was wrongly assigned at birth?
    After all, transsexuals have always recognized their assigned SEX as the problem and not their Gender. Confusing sex with Gender will forever be a societal problem until society recognizes the truth!

  10. Ute Heggen

    Thank you for this. I heard the other side of the board indoctrination as the wife of a man who “identified” and was diagnosed as “trans” in the initial appointment, verified by a sworn affidavit in the custody case in the 1990s. The mental health field suddenly became the “trenches” in “this war” and found it professional to indoctrinate, brainwash and capture in linguistics. We must be strong, stalwart and have fortitude. This may take a generation. I saw it take over my sons’ generation. But then, they work in tech.
    Love to you all, Ute Heggen, author, In the Curated Woods, True Tales from a Grass Widow (iuniverse)

  11. D Dawkin

    I’m afraid I too doubt any 14 year old could write such a perfectly formed piece. And I too feel that it is as mistake not to acknowledge some adult intervention. This is far too important an issue to be seen to be “propagandising” as the other side.

    1. Transgender Trend

      There was no adult intervention in this piece. She is a very intelligent and articulate 14 year-old who came to her views by herself before any discussion of the issues with her parents who simply encourage her to have her own point of view.

    2. Dick Heasman

      On what evidence? There is a big difference between “no 14 year old could write such…” and “few 14 year olds could write such…”
      Transgender Trend have previously answered this point in their reply to Heloise. Why do you persist in not believing them?

  12. charles lewis

    I have for years now had a huge admiration for Transgendertrend as the leaders in the fight against the horrors of the trans nonsense, but at this point I have to voice a certain concern. I am familiar with the ‘testimonies’ of PITT and I regard most of them as factitious. This latest offering from Transgendertrend is worryingly similar to PITT offerings.
    Can TT swear faithfully, I wonder, that this ghastly story as told by a 14 year old girl is really all her own work and is truthful. It reads like the worst sort of horror story.

    1. Transgender Trend

      Yes, we can swear faithfully that this is all her own work and that she is truthful – and came to her views by herself, without parental input. She is exceptionally bright and articulate. As an organisation we are very cautious and would never publish any testimony before establishing veracity, we work hard to establish that our sources are genuine. We would not publish anything unless we felt trust in the source, and we have no need to exaggerate what is happening in some schools in the UK and would never try to do that.

  13. Lucy

    Heart broken for this girl. 14 year olds have no business worrying about this nonsense and I cannot imagine what school would allow the things that she has written about to happen. I’m a mother of a 12 year old and if this were happening in her school, I’d hit the roof!

    Stay strong and be yourself. Don’t let anyone thought police your opinions or beliefs on anything. Ever.

  14. Peter George Mackie

    This is alarming.

  15. Deirdre

    I am in the US. I work in theater, primarily with teenagers. My last show had 1/3 of the girls claiming to be something other than just female. Mostly non- binary but there were a lot of name changes and pronoun demands. 25 girls- 9 OF THEM!!!! It has become the most important fact in their lives and in fact I was pushed out of this job after a stellar 30 year career because I chose to use names and not wrong sex pronouns. I moved my 12 yr old daughter out of public school due to the “Belonging” surveys and other questions that asked, “Are you a member of the LGBTQ+ community?” The Genderbread person, etc etc. The SEL (Social Emotional Learning) that has so many red flags even when it is not overtly indoctrination. I have not seen the same with my sons who are 17 and 19 because they are almost past the worst stages, unscathed, thankfully, but everything has ramped up in the lower schools so much in the past 2 years, especially the past year. It is almost too much to believe. This has really devastated the theater/music/art kids. The misfits and the awkward girls. It is heartbreaking to me.

  16. Peter Taylor

    As a Union LGBT Activist, on both my Union’s LGBTI Committee, as well as the TUC’s LGBT+ Committee, I tried to warn them about the dangers of this crazy ‘every gender must be affirmed and students must be allowed to be themselves’ style of brainwashing. In the case of the TUC I was silenced in a Zoom Meeting and not allowed to make my point of view, while the Head of Equalities in my Union (NASUWT) said that under no circumstances would I be allowed to raise my points.
    I represented a teaching union, whose duty of care should be towards teachers. If this type of lunacy carries on unchecked, sooner or later a school or a teacher will be sued for failing to enact due diligence and safeguarding measures, just like in America. It might no be immediately, but as schools have to, by law, keep records for seven years from when the student left, potentially, a 25 year old could come back and sue.

  17. Kas

    Thank you for writing this, Cynthia. I’m so sorry school is a place where you are exposed to totally inappropriate sexual content and forced to hide your own beliefs – that’s absolutely outrageous and you and your peers deserve so much better – and more respect! We had sexism, sexual harassment and homophobia to deal with when I was at school 20 years ago but it was nothing like this level of cultist top-down indoctrination you so eloquently describe here. I just want to be clear this isn’t healthy or normal and is certainly a relatively recent development, hopefully the pendulum will swing back towards more tolerance and common sense soon but I know that’s not much consolation for the generation having their school years blighted by it right now. But hang in there, once you make it through school I promise there are still sane people in the real world! The way you see through it all is really encouraging to hear and I’m impressed with your strength.

  18. Mum

    I 💯 believe you! My children’s schools and older children’s experiences at university are literally like this all the time.

  19. Kay E

    Your testimony is powerful. Thank you for having the courage to speak out – your parents must be super proud of you.

  20. WestCoast Woman

    Regarding how articulate this piece of writing is, I think as parents we need to be aware that older children and teens are reading an enormous amount of content online. So much of how this generation are becoming brainwashed by this cultish ideology , is because there are extensive “catechisms” effectively which teach, in depth, about Gender Ideology and all the ins and outs, justifying it and making it seem legitimate to a young demographic who are encountering challenging ideas for the first time.

    I wouldn’t doubt that a 14 year old intelligent critical thinker could also spend just the same amount of time reading all the Gender Critical and scientific articles online with the evidence and compare that to what she is seeing, hearing, reading and being taught. Although kids may be reading less books, they’re still (especially girls) absorbing a huge amount of written material via the internet and social media.

    At 14 I was taking the train from my neighborhood of Greater London into the center to buy feminist books, magazines; fiction and non-fiction from a feminist bookstore and I was talking to absolutely nobody about what I was reading. If I had had the access to the same material online, plus discussions and forums I am sure I would have joined the dots even faster as this teen has. At the same time I was socializing and participating in everything going on at school, I wasn’t an awkward loner. I just didn’t think I knew anyone who was thinking about the same kinds of issues.

  21. Worried Dad

    So well articulated that I expect this young lady had some help putting her words onto paper, and that’s fine, it does not diminish what this article is communicating. I worry this is the reality for many schools and that teachers reading this will just think “so what”, rather than wake up to what awful behaviour they are engaged in. The indoctrination and brainwashing of having to state your pro-nouns all the time. It’s a masterclass in mind control. I wish I knew where this dis-utopian nightmare of a school was. I worry it’s the very same school my daughter (who now claims to be non-binary) attends. They see it as a light-hearted fashion statement without any knowledge of the long-term damage socially transitioning does to their mental development. These teachers should be fired.

  22. Simone

    Good afternoon,

    I am seeking to produce an Australian version of TT UK’s ‘Supporting gender diverse and trans-identifying students in schools’. I would be very grateful if a representative from TT UK could contact me to confirm that I have consent to model my proposed guidelines on the TT document.

    Thank you,

  23. Respectfully Concerned

    I preface this by saying that all labels are “made up”. That is the nature of language itself.

    In an ideal world, we would not need any kind of labels and we would just be able to be. But that isn’t the world we live in.
    I feel that simply the act of expressing your identities through different labels is being very overdramatised. Kids are going through a turbulent time, and they’re going to want to figure out their identity. Being given the language to work through that is not, in my opinion, a disaster situation. Same with being asked to state pronouns before speaking publicly.

    If a child is transitioning socially, there shouldn’t be a problem. Things like changing name, pronouns and label are completely reversible if a child does ‘grow out of’ their feelings. It isn’t and shouldn’t be equated to something like medical transition. This also shouldn’t be gatekept because of someone’s mental health issues – they are separate issues to deal with.

    The unmonitored group chat is definitely an issue, though these would absolutely exist without anything to do with ‘gender ideology’. Secondary school kids especially love to act like they’re far more mature than they are and will often go into adult topics out of rebellion. It is a problem but how to solve it is beyond me, unfortunately. The point I’m trying to make is that kids are uncertain. They have big emotions and are going through hell on earth. They need a space to express that. Not every child is going to be ‘transed’, that’s an obvious conclusion to come to. Those who believe that it may be appropriate for them should be respected and given the support that they need, one bit at a time. If they end up on the conclusion that it’s not right for them, that’s fine too.

    Most people I know do not think that the simple act of gender non-conformity equals their actual gender. If you know people who do believe that, I do believe they’ve gotten it wrong. The only one who can dictate that fact is yourself. Trans and nonbinary people would know more than anyone that being perceived as what they aren’t can hurt.

    I’ve tried to be as respectful as I can in my disagreements, I hope that I managed that. I do empathise with all of this being a lot to take in and potentially having concerns, but if you don’t let those concerns fester and go inward, they can become something other than a moral panic.

    1. Dick Heasman

      With respect, what’s an “actual gender”? I can’t get my head around that. I do understand the concept of “actual sex” though.

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