A Trans Adult Speaks Out Against Gender Indoctrination Of Children

The transgender/transsexual community is not one homogeneous group whose members believe unanimously in the new ‘gender identity’ ideology, although these have been the loudest voices and the ones which have been listened to in the shaping of policy. It’s important to know that there are also many in the community itself who are in fundamental disagreement with both the ideology and the push to transition children. Those who speak out put themselves at risk of attack as much as anyone else who questions these new beliefs. Most notably, Miranda Yardley has written extensively on the illogic of ‘gender identity’ ideology and its impact on both women and children.

At Transgender Trend we are sometimes contacted by transsexual/transgender adults who express great concern about the transitioning of children and support the work we do to challenge it. The following guest post was written for us by Jenn Smith, a 52 year old transgender from Canada who opposes child gender indoctrination and the destruction of women’s safe spaces, and has started a YouTube channel ‘Transanity’ to campaign on these issues. We thank Jenn for this honest piece and unique perspective on the dangers of the gender indoctrination of children in schools and its particular effect on boys and young men:

The Peer Pressure Transgender Time-Bomb

Jenn Smith

I am what you might call a transgender elder. At 52 years of age I have been in the community a very long time and am still in the heart of it today. I know transgender people of all ages and know all of the dynamics of the community. My intimate knowledge is actually a big part of why I believe kids must be discouraged from making so-called “gender” choices in school.

I was born a male, thus my primary expertise is of course “male to female” transitions and the pressures associated with that. I did not, in this essay, really want to go into addressing the topics of when I first developed “gender dysphoria” and when I transitioned, as these issues are actually very complex. Nevertheless, some brief pertinent details will be helpful.

I began compulsively feminizing myself very young. I am not sure how old I was, possibly as young as eight or nine, but certainly by the age of ten. Initially there was no consciously (and I use that word advisedly) sexual impulse driving it, although that would change after puberty kicked in. It should be noted that 75% of adult transgenders are male-to-female, and this should suggest to you that it is (in my opinion) primarily driven by sexual/psychological symbols entering the young male mind from the world around them. This would also explain why transgender inclinations have increased as society itself has become increasingly sexualised. As Stephanie Davies-Arai has suggested, the opposite motivation might be true for female-to-male transgenders for whom transition may be one way to escape the hyper-sexualisation of females in society. Again, none of this needs to be conscious; it can all be subconscious in its inception.

Because it was strictly taboo at the time and place I grew up, I dressed and expressed myself in secret, but at every opportunity I had, for many years. I would dress and make myself up just like my popular and much older foster sister (using her clothes and my foster mother’s wigs). Please note here that I refer to my “popular” foster sister, who became so because she was a sexual magnet. Did I thus also subconsciously process this as a way to be popular, especially when TV and media portrayed popular women this way too? In any case, I would dress in short skirts, female shoes, makeup, and a wig, and then admire my creation in the mirror. When I was done dressing up I looked, frankly, like a ten year-old child prostitute.

Just dressing up regularly may not have indicated anything other than an unusual fascination, however, after dressing myself like a child prostitute, I would then go out walking around town like this! I was caught returning from one of these jaunts by my foster father. He pushed me up against a wall, pointed his finger in my face, and told me in a very angry tone, “don’t you ever dress like this again … what the hell is wrong with you? Somebody is going to abduct you or rape you or who knows what! Never again! You hear me!” I heard him, but it only made me more careful, as I would do it over and over again for years.

As I had been using the provocative clothes of my foster sister, when she moved out after a few years I no longer had a suitable clothing supply to support my urges, but I still had an urge to express and present myself in a hyper-sexual feminine form. But I was bullied in school (back to the popularity issue) all the time without feminizing myself, and I knew that trying to present myself like this in school would have been virtual suicide, thus it stayed strictly sub-rosa in my life until I was emancipated (with a few minor exceptions).

I grew up in a relatively small community, and even in the early 1980s any males that dressed and presented themselves as women, did so at their own peril (despite the influence of David Bowie and Boy George). Nevertheless, I made several forays into public in my feminine form. I only did this when I was separate from friends and family members as I assumed none of them would support it. These early adult experiments in transitioning came to a very sudden and violent end one summer night when I dressed provocatively and decided to go out to a club.

I did not make it to the club. A carload of young men that I knew pulled up beside me as I walked down the street, and one very large aggressive young man began screaming at me that I was a so and so fag. I had been subjected to male aggression and assaults many times and thus was very familiar with it, but this I immediately sensed was something terribly, terribly different. He was screaming at me so wildly and so loud I knew that if he got out of the car I was probably going to be in a lot of trouble. His friends were laughing and I heard him say “stop the car.” Those words still echo in my mind like something from a nightmare. He got out of the car and walked quickly towards me and proceeded to give me a beating so vicious I was convinced I was going to be killed, and might have been were it not for one unknown woman that stepped in. I had lost consciousness for some brief moments thus I do not know where she came from. She pulled at my assaulter screaming “you are going to kill him … stop!!!” I never knew who that woman was, but out of a crowd of onlookers, it was of course only a woman that had the courage to step in and save me. Is it any wonder I worship feminine nature so much?

Obviously that kind of vicious beating kind of forces you to “reassess” whether you want to do it publicly anymore and gives new meaning to the term “scared straight”. The beating I received is an example to me of what the biggest problem was with how society related to transgenderism – namely, why would anybody beat bloody a gentle person like me and leave them in the street bleeding while most everybody just stood by and watched? That was always the biggest problem, not whether I had mad doctors ready to give me hormones and puberty blockers.

I have always understood, at least since I hit puberty, that the feminization of the male body is clearly the homo-erotic sexualisation of the male body. It is an act that for most people tells the world that you are trying to be seen as a sex object to males. But it is complicated, because it is different than homosexuality. I could write a long essay simply on the psychology of how both the performer and the consumer of transgenderism think, but that is not the purpose of this essay. Immediately I am trying to illustrate the fact that by “feminizing” the male, in this case a young male, you are sexualising him. Making him the object of sexual attention. But beside the obvious sexualisation that occurs when a young male wears female attire etc., there are other good reasons why it should be discouraged.

Nothing a child or teen boy can do will change their biology from male to female. Males will never grow ovaries and females will never grow testes, and neither will ever have the actual genitalia of the opposite sex. Of course we have system-serving hacks like Bruce/Caitlyn Jenner telling everybody a male can be a “real woman”. In a recent interview talking about his sex reassignment surgery (if he really had it), he said “but I was just as much a woman before the surgery as after.” But of course this idea that a male can become a real female is prima facie absurd to anybody with a brain or a modicum of honesty.

Young boys and teens can actually feminize themselves fairly well when they are young because their full male hormones have yet to kick in. But it is an illusion; and a very dangerous one. Their male hormones will kick in, it is biologically programmed; it has to do with chromosomes and DNA, which cannot be changed. And as they get into their teen years the ability to look soft and feminine becomes increasingly difficult. Bones will grow, hair will grow, muscles will grow, and yet they will have put themselves into a category in which feminine qualities are revered and manly qualities frowned upon. They will thus be subjected to the same kind of peer pressures that regular girls are in terms of looking as good as they can.

We all know about “mean girls” and social pressures in school; well there are “mean trans” now as well, and those not “femme” enough will be subjected to either real or imagined peer pressure to look more feminine. As I began my campaign to dissuade schools and parents from allowing gender identity changes in children, I was immediately attacked by what I call “brown shirt tranny fascists,” which I discovered are really just a branch of the “mean tranny” culture. They claimed I was too old to be transgendered and not feminine enough (I have had no surgery or hormones). Of course the shallow little bullies could not know they were only making my point about peer pressure.

Even for those young males able to look reasonably feminine when they are young, for most the only way they will be able to maintain those feminine characteristics (if they are lucky and wealthy enough to afford it) will be to start heavy usage of hormones; because, of course, a pretty feminine transgender is more popular than a boyish not so pretty transgender. Some, like myself, may be able to get by without hormones, but most will succumb to the pressure to maximize their feminine qualities by using hormone therapy. For some it will work, for others it will not, and this no doubt helps account for the high rates of suicide in “transgendered” people.

For many more the hormone therapy will sterilize them and render them sexually dysfunctional. As I have aged, every day has brought with it the struggle to retain or regain the feminized charms I once had. Certainly the transgenders I have known that killed themselves no doubt succumbed for this very reason. They had serious psychological problems and could not deal with the fact they could not be “femme” enough. Why would you want to subject young males to this kind of dangerous pressure to be femme? It is hard enough to deal with as an adult let alone as a child or teen. For mothers that have been in the “mean girl” culture in school, imagine if you had all of those pressures to be pretty, but that you had male hormones busy morphing you into a masculine form. Do you have any idea how very dangerous this would be to a young mind?

We know that extensive use of hormones leads to increased risks of cancer and all kinds of health problems, not to mention compromising the endocrine gland system, sterilizing children, and rendering many sexually dysfunctional, thus of little use in that way to males or females. And yet psychiatrists and doctors associated with the radical LGBT extremists and drug companies will prescribe these things like candy now to confused youths responding to peer pressure. It is enormously expensive to look really good as a transgender, thus only those with the funds will be able to rise to the top, so there is an elitist bias as well.

My well-informed, time-tested experience and intimate knowledge of the community and the internal psychology of trans-life, has led me to believe that facilitating what in most cases might be childhood whims is highly dangerous and irresponsible. Just say “no” to promoting gender change in our children. You may actually kill more children than you help.


  • LindaW Reply

    Thank you so much for this important perspective. Your comments about peer pressure and “mean tranny” culture are especially valuable to parents trying their best to help their children navigate this difficult territory.

  • FightingToGetHerBack Reply

    Thank you so, so much for writing. As a mother whose teen daughter believes she is transgender (one of several at her school) and who first got this idea when attending a school presentation (she had never shown any signs of this throughout her childhood), it is very difficult to find professionals who understand the complexity and seriousness of this issue. In fact, those I have worked with tried to scare me into giving her hormones — telling me that they were “perfectly safe” — and that if I did not, I would put her at risk of suicide. The school she attends would also not listen to my concerns. In fact, she came out to the school without my knowledge and they didn’t even inform me. They just started using her new name and pronouns. We had to withdraw our daughter from school just to remove her from all of the positive reinforcement that she received there.

    Now we are trying to work with a non-gender therapist to work on underlying issues and hoping desperately we can undo all of the harm that the gender therapists have done before she is old enough to make body-altering decisions without our consent.

    What makes this even more difficult is that the media continues to provide very one-sided coverage of this issue, while parents like me must remain anonymous to protect our children’s privacy.

    Thank you so much for helping to give us a voice…and sharing your very important perspective on this issue.

  • Iris Black Reply

    Unfortunately, until all children can be sensitized to transgender issues, the peer pressure, bullying, name calling and more will continue. It is so important for parents to recognize the support needs of their children and to seek help and support wherever needed. Children can be cruel and the impact of their behavior on their transgender peers can be devastating. Thank you for sharing your perspective.

  • RysMom Reply

    It has been about 2 years since my then 16 year old gay son was diagnosed with “Gender Dysphoria”. The psychologist I was seeing for therapy for myself practiced with the Psychiatrist who diagnosed my son. By the way, by diagnosing I mean he listened to what my son had to say about feeling like he should have been a girl, and pretty much just gave us his official opinion after spending less than an hour with my son. My psychologist agreed with me when I said, venting my anger, that just because we have a “diagnosis” doesn’t mean I’m going to do anything about. She told me that’s very true, it’s not going to hurt to wait and see what happens. So I waited, I listened to my son when he wanted to talk, I didn’t say much when he bought a “shoulder bag” (aka a purse), nor did I say much when he tried out wearing subtle makeup. I did, however, put my foot down when he grew out his nails into that pointy style that popular for like a minute. Personally, I don’t like those on any gender, lol! Anyway, long story short, yesterday we talked and he told me he’s out grown that feeling, that he now knows and is comfortable with the fact that he’s a gay boy who likes a more androgynous look. He’s happy with his body and all the accompanying male parts. He removed himself from a FTM transgendered friend a few months ago, whom my son now feels was influencing how he felt about himself, encouraging him to look into hormones and transitioning. That friend has many, many other issues, and it was always at the heart of my argument for not doing anything that transitioning will not make his life easier or better, and it is no cure for any other mental health issues that may be going on. I have my son back, but really, by not encouraging nor making too big of a deal about transitioning, I never really lost him. He’s found his own comfort zone, on his own, with no encouragement or influence in either direction. He’s now 18 and he is very content with the compromise of being a gay man but liking feminine things. I cannot express enough now glad I am I followed my gut and didn’t jump on the transition bandwagon many parents feel so pressured to do. I am relieved and my son is happy, healthy, and whole.

  • Kay Brown Reply

    Yes, the adult “transgender” community is not an homogenous group. The vast majority (80-90% is various studies) of those who seek and obtain “sex changes” prove to be heterosexual men with a severe paraphilia called “autogynephilia”. This is the same paraphilia found in classic transvestites. In fact, there is an joke within that “transgender” community, “What’s the difference between a transvestite and a transsexual? Two years!”


    These adults only begin their journey toward a sex change, if at all, in mid-adulthood, typically in the mid-30 and older. They are typically masculine as children and adults and only superficially become “femininized” when they seek medical services. As teenagers, except for secretative cross-dressing, usually in stolen women’s lingerie, often accompanied by masturbation (after all… this cross-dressing is what they find sexually arousing), they show no signs of being “transgendered” until many years later. They have nothing in common with gender atypical or gender dysphoric children, having a completely different psychological issue.

    Science has recognized for decades that there are two types of people who seek medical help… “classic” transsexuals and autogynephilic transgendered. Two completely separate medical etiologies, psychology, sexuality, and life arc.

    Miranda Yardly is a classic example of an autogynephilic “transgender”. So why should parents take advice regarding their gender atypical and gender dysphoric children from such an adult? Seriously?

    To find a realistic view of parenting gender atypical and gender dysphoric children from an adult who was such a child would be a better idea.


  • Diva1960 Reply

    Miranda Yardley is an articulate critic of contemporary transgender ideology, as is the author of this article.

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