This page is a collection of resources for parents, including some things you might want to share with your child, including useful websites, writings, books and videos. See also the Detransition page for useful stories from people who transitioned and later regretted doing so or gained new insights into why they had taken that path.

Note: The most coherent arguments against gender identity theory have been made by feminists, some of which are included here. We don’t include the view of far-right religious groups which is prejudicial towards gay and lesbian people.

 

4thWaveNow

The best online resource for parents: a blog where you can find consistent excellent writing and research as well as personal accounts from a growing parent community. Essential reading.

“4thWaveNow was started by the mother of a teenage girl who suddenly announced she was a “trans man” after a few weeks of total immersion in YouTube transition vlogs. (The daughter has since desisted from identifying as transgender.) After much research and fruitless searching for an alternative online viewpoint, this mom began writing about her deepening skepticism of the ever-accelerating medical and media fascination with the phenomenon of “transgender children.””

4thwavenow.com

 

Youth Trans Critical Professionals

A site which was founded by a group of professionals sceptical of the trend to diagnose children and adolescents as transgender. An important alternative viewpoint from professionals in the field.

“This website is a community of professionals thinking critically about the youth transgender movement. We are psychologists, social workers, doctors, medical ethicists, and academics.We tend to be left-leaning, open-minded, and pro-gay rights. However, we are concerned about the current trend to quickly diagnose and affirm young people as transgender, often setting them down a path toward medical transition.”

youthtranscriticalprofessionals.org

 

Gender Critical Dad

A blog from the father of a teenage girl who has announced she is transgender. “A bit of a boring middle aged bloke, trying to keep his daughter safe. Shamelessly stealing ideas from Gender Critical Radical Feminism.”

gendercriticaldad.blogspot.co.uk

 

Peach Yogurt

Parents of teenage girls may want to share this brilliant video series from Peach Yogurt with their daughters. Highly recommended viewing:

Seven Signs You Are Transgender

https://youtu.be/pMEErnIyBG4

Why Some Girls Don’t Want To Be Women

https://youtu.be/QPwwdhu2YVQ

 

Destroy Your Binder

This is a really courageous and moving video from Kat, a young woman who many teenage girls with body issues around their breasts will be able to relate to.

https://youtu.be/Z5we2DLSAp0

 

Secret Gender Critical Blog

A blog by a young lesbian who thought she was ‘transmasc’ for many years. “i discovered detransitioning blogs on tumblr and realized that, as a child, no one ever presented being a GNC female as an option to me. i was not feminine. i liked girls. i did not want to be a lesbian. i didn’t know any lesbians personally and like every other young girl in the US i grew up thinking that dykes were fat and ugly and aggressive and smelly and no one liked them. it was inconceivable to me that i could be a happy lesbian, much less a happy, non-feminine woman. it was inconceivable to me that i could deal with my dysphoria (my hatred of my body but especially my hatred of how men treated my body, and how society treated me because of my body) in a way that did not involve altering or obliterating it.”

Read the full blog here

 

“I Wanted An Identity So Badly”

“I was 100% thoroughly convinced that I was a woman trapped in a man’s body.” A really useful post from a young man called John who documents his own journey to becoming convinced he was transgender.

Read the full post here

 

Interview with Grayson Perry

For parents of boys and young men, Grayson Perry is a man who challenges masculinity and cross-dresses without having to call himself a woman and he is always worth listening to as an alternative voice.

See the interview here

 

Sex and Gender – A Beginner’s Guide

The most thorough and comprehensive examination of the difference between biological sex and gender, taking in science, social and political meanings, hierarchies of gender, and the implications of ‘gender identity’ as a replacement for biology. By Rebecca Reilly-Cooper.

Read the full guide here

 

A Critical Analysis of Gender Identity

A talk in which Rebecca Reilly-Cooper brilliantly explains the incoherence of gender identity theory.

Watch the full talk here

 

What is Gender Anyway?

A comprehensive, well-researched analysis of the development of the current belief in the idea of innate ‘gender identity,’ taking in scientific inquiry and political and cultural meanings of the term ‘gender.’ By Sarah Ditum.

Read the full article here

 

Delusions of Gender: The Real Science Behind Sex Differences

The definitive take-down of the old myths of hard-wired, innate sex differences in the brain, written by neuroscientist Cordelia Fine.

See the book on Amazon here

 

The Myth of Mars and Venus: Do Men and Women Really Speak Different Languages?

Another good book on the myths of the differences between men and women, girls and boys, popularised by the book ‘Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.’ Clear, amusing and readable, this is a book teenage girls (or boys) may enjoy. By Deborah Cameron, Professor of Language and Communication at Oxford University.

See the book on Amazon here

 

Gender Hurts: A Feminist Analysis Of The Politics of Transgenderism

This is a clear overview of the history of transgender politics which provides the context for the very recent practice of transgendering children. Thorough, meticulously-researched and clearly-argued from a feminist perspective. By Sheila Jeffreys, Professor of Feminist Politics, University of Melbourne.

See the book on Amazon here

 

Advice For Parents of Teen Girls and Girl-Children Who Think They Are Trans

Advice for parents from a young woman who was on the transgender path. “Also, you need to be able to support your daughter, but if your child confronts you about your hesitations, simply tell her this: “if anything medically bad happened to you as a result of my consenting to hormone treatment for you, I wouldn’t be able to forgive myself.” Don’t offer any further explanations. Hold firm on this. Repeat as necessary.”

Read the full post here

 

Is My Child Transgender?

From the parenting blog ‘Communicating with Kids.’ Put ‘transgender’ into Search to find all the posts relating to transgender issues. “For children, ‘I’m really a girl’ or ‘I’m really a boy’ is the only language they have to understand and explain their personalities in a world that reinforces the correct gender behaviour everywhere they look. Society does a pretty thorough job of conditioning children into boy and girl roles as it is, can’t at least we parents feel and express confidence in our tough girls and sensitive boys?”

Read the full post here

 

Purple Sage: On Leaving The Trans Cult

A useful personal story from a young lesbian woman who moved from immersion in transgender politics as a social justice cause to a realisation of the harms of the movement for women and, especially, lesbians. This is a helpful synopsis of the two sides of the debate for all young people. “I was taught that transgender people were born in the wrong body and had to change their body to match their internal image of themselves. I am an open-minded person and I had no problem believing this. But a lot of my feminist sisters were not open to it. I started getting into online fights with other feminists.”

Read the full post here

 

To Boys Who Don’t Fit In – A Guest Post by Jesse

An alternative view from a transwoman who challenges the usual mantra ‘transwomen are women.’  “I’m a bit like you. I was a boy who didn’t fit in, who grew into a young man who didn’t fit in, and wanted, and wished, to be a girl.”

Read the full post here